Last night I was traveling on a highway and saw a billboard ad for a radio station or a particular radio show that displayed a photo of a man and a slogan that read something like “I will learn more stuff, and my mother will be proud of me”. Sorry that my recollection of it isn’t more precise, but in any case, my mind started wondering, and I thought about why the ad referenced the mother rather than the father.
My basic impression is that mothers and fathers dole out approval in different ways, and /or perhaps are expected to do so within our culture. Mothers are apparently more loving and accepting, whereas fathers are, apparently again, more demanding and judgmental. I’m not sure how prevalent this is, as I can readily imagine stern and judging mothers; perhaps adoring fathers also. But the actual insight was the connection that I saw between such parenting duo of contrasting roles, and the good cop/bad cop binary. I’m not sure how many people outside of my Freudian shrink will find this interesting though, but I was even high or anything like that!